What Moms Really Want (And Why It’s Okay to Want It)

Let's start by acknowledging how often moms are told what they "should" want—swaddles, schedules, selflessness—but rarely asked what they actually need.

Right at the beginning, I'd like to personally validate all the moms for your unseen and often underappreciated labor and innate wisdom that you bring to your family every day!

While there is nothing inherently wrong with appreciating the beauty of a woman’s body, this single focus can make things confusing when a woman breastfeeds. When you have only experienced your breasts as sexual, breastfeeding can lead to some conflicting feelings. 

There is a wide range of what is normal in terms of your sexuality after you have a baby. Some women do not feel the return of sexual desire for many months or even years after childbirth. Some women wait impatiently for their caregiver to give them the go-ahead to engage sexually again. No matter where you fall on this spectrum, sexuality will most likely become part of your life. If you and your partner have enjoyed your breasts as part of your sexual experience in the past, incorporating your lactating breasts into your sex life is a new experience that requires patience, clear communication, and a sense of humor.